Wednesday, January 28, 2026

"Root Rot Regrowth"

            The redbrick house sat so close to the railroad tracks that it shook whenever a train thundered past. No decorations adorned the walls. No knickknacks sat on the dressers or hutches. No one dared leave a glass on the kitchen counter. At one time, the house belonged to a railroad company for employees to use for overnight stops. Eventually, my great-aunt Helen settled there to take care of her syphilis insane ex-husband . . . but that’s another story.
            I loved Aunt Helen’s house because of the porch that covered its front. Wicker chairs, a bench swing, and enormous planters filled with Mother-in-law tongues provided a hideaway for me and my siblings during our visits to League City, Texas. My grandmother, uncle and his family lived next door in a nasty, dysfunctional home. I preferred Aunt Helen’s tales of her wild and reckless youth to the more difficult to understand stories of my grandmother. As a child, I could barely understand a word she said. Later, as an adult, I learned to appreciate the richness of a Cajun cadence. 
            Aunt Helen taught me to propagate plants. From her, I learned to appreciate separating new growth from the roots. She showed me how to pinch off a philodendron at just the right spot and just how much sunlight it needed to grow in a glass jar. Kneeling in her gardens, I separated bulbs and appreciated the hardiness of the Purple Heart Wandering Jew plant, which thrive in my yard today—grown from clippings from her garden more than fifty years ago.
            The Mother-in-law tongue plants became my favorite plants to nurture. I loved everything about them: the green outlined by yellow, the long and slender sword-like leaves. My imagination latched onto their name that alluded to the sharp tip of a mother-in-law’s criticism.
            After Aunt Helen died, her plants went to various friends. I inherited one that resided with me in my college apartment. One winter, I negligently left it outside on the porch. It died a horrible, frozen death.
            For some reason, many years passed before I purchased two Mother-in-law tongue plants. I fell in love with it all over again! This time, I made certain to bring them in each winter. Once the plants crowded in their pots, I’d repot them into a slightly larger container, always attending to their preferences. Both plants thrived!
            Until they didn’t.
            Not enough sunlight.
            Too much water.
            Suddenly, I found myself on my knees, hose in hand, gently tugging each leaf grouping apart. Mush in some sections. Healthy leaves in another. I focused on recovery. Every day, I visit these plants and murmur an incantation of encouragement.
            Just enough sunlight.
            Water measured with caution.
            Regrowth.










Eight plants thriving now in 2026





Copyright 2022 Elizabeth Abrams Chapman

Tuesday, January 27, 2026

“Brain Challenges!”



In October, I began using the mini-Mac my son gifted me when Windows 10 no longer had support. Over the years, I’ve used Mac hardware and software, but each time I shift back, my brain stubbornly sticks to the other computer. 

A few days ago, I couldn’t find the Dictionary and Thesaurus for Pages although I’d used it a couple of weeks before. The shift to Tahoe had rippled down into my having to go into this-n-that and do a restart to access both of those with a highlight and click again. I’d also saved a template to Pages that vanished with the update. I grumble to myself, “I obviously did this before. . .” 

This morning, I decided to capture a few photographs of the remaining ice outside. When using my iPhone, pictures transfer to my new computer effortlessly. Select. Airdrop. Location (usually Downloads for me). Then comes the challenge of editing each picture, which I struggle with every single time. Using my Canon requires me to attach a cable between it and the computer hub. I’m not Tony Stark. This simple mating takes me at least four tries. The camera gives me its usual “BUSY” message, but I drew a blank on how to select and import the newest pictures. I’m not even trying to run them through anything like Photoshop. That’s for a different day. 

I tell myself every time I type a piece or load a picture that adjusting to all of this new stuff is really good for me. I have to do Google searches and view YouTube instructional videos to do something that used to be done on autopilot. I need to view these brain challenges an additional part of my daily exercise routine.


Cardboard left for squirrels!



Copyright 2026 Elizabeth Abrams Chapman 

Monday, January 26, 2026

"A Little OCD?"





            Sometimes, I pretend my quirks of organization keep our home running smoothly, but I suspect my husband and son view my penchant for orderliness as tremendously irksome. Right now, the kitchen desk sports hand sanitizer sprays lined in a militarily precise row. Next to them, a black box contains a pair of rubber gloves, three “back-up” face masks, and the four thick masks that we all prefer. Those masks, washed in hot water after every use, get rotated into the box to prevent us from overusing any one mask since they are identical. There’s been tons of joking that having the pandemic gave me a valid excuse for my love affair with bleach!
            This period of pause is the longest I’ve ever gone without working or being a caregiver. It allows me to indulge my need for tidiness. At the beginning of the year, we got rid of our ancient, heavy bedroom furniture and picked up something functional that feeds into my growing need for simple lines. Imagine my delight when I found wonderful fabric bins that fit our drawers perfectly. I Marie Kondo-ed everything! Folding clothes, once a ho-hum chore, now delights me. Everything has its place because there is a place for everything.
            


          I blissfully structure other things in my daily life. Do I hunt for keys? Never! My house keys reside in their own separate pouch that gets tucked into a zipped section of my purse. Naturally, I buy purses with similar features to keep searching for anything in my purse to a minimum. Other women do that, right?
            When I leave the house for the day, my routine never strays. I make certain my tote contains the necessary items for the day. Pens, journal, book, water, lunch. I check the bag twice before zipping it up and heading out the door. Before returning home at the end of each day, I repeat the process twice. I figure a little time with upfront coordination saves me time. If something gets left behind, that means trip backtracking. OCD, or efficient use of time? You decide.
             
Copyright 2020 Elizabeth Abrams Chapman 


I HAVE to have music to listen to as I clean and organize! How about you? Today I'm putting this on repeat!



 
 
             
 

 

Sunday, January 25, 2026

“Content of Hate”

My heart breaks every day now. Someone else’s daughter taken away. The friend of a friend of a friend of a friend handcuffed and dragged down stairs and into the street. A worker beaten with fists by one, two, three, four, five, six, seven weaponized and disguised modern KKK. Masks instead of white hoods, but they inherited their black souls from grandfathers long dead. They pummel priests and pastors, and rip children from safe, loving parents. They kill because they can.



We know how they want this to end. Goebbel’s guidelines play out with each press conference. Blame the victim who can’t speak for herself—she’s dead. Blame the victim who stood up to witness their cruelty. He’s dead, too. Blame the five-year-old in his blue capped innocence. Blame the two-year-old who should’ve had better parents. 

Their venom poisons every word they utter, every thought they present through distortion. They force themselves into our lives daily by creating their own content of hate. 

Opposition surprises them. In their warped world of inhumanity, they cannot imagine anyone uniting in persistent, frustratingly legal resistance. Horns and whistles sounded in warning, phones raised high to record their brutality, doors locked against them when they think there should be approval.      

Streets flooded with humanity screaming, “FUCK ICE! GO HOME!”



Copyright 2026 Elizabeth Abrams Chapman




This song, "Seconds to Live" came to mind today. 







Saturday, January 24, 2026

"An Old Friend"

She’s an old friend,   
just a co-worker now—an acquaintance   
We smile when we pass in the hall   
We share complaints about classes, victories with kids   
Lately, she’s lost her smile   
Her usual elegance fades    
Her eyes, downcast as she walks, miss my smiled greetings   
Someone whispers a rumor   
asks what I know—me, the ostrich with her head in the sand   
I look around   
Suddenly I see her loss   
realize her shock and grief   
Stunned, I see them together—       
as she must see them, too       
He sniffs around the other woman like she’s a bitch in heat       
They drive up in the same car       
step out for lunch       
stand together in the hallway       
flirtatiously laughing       
body language that screams—Couple       
What words can I offer?       
advice, as they say, is cheap   
How do I let her know I care   
without letting her painfully realize—   
I know   
(just like everyone else)   
I can talk to her, try to listen, try to be around just a little more   
Her other friends and I can form a safety net   
but we can’t protect her from anger, loss, grief   
We see it in her eyes  
in the way she moves now   
I remember another time when she had no net   
her loss almost killed her    
So, I’ll stand guard




Copyright 1999 Elizabeth Abrams Chapman


Just the right song to go with today's poem. 




Friday, January 23, 2026

“Outside In”





In anticipation of today’s empty the greenhouse project, I woke up before my alarm. Shifting a few small pieces of furniture in the living room and strategizing the best way to protect a bathroom shelf, I patted myself on the back for picking up heavy duty aluminum foil last night. It took a few minutes to wrap the wood with wax paper and foil to provide a surface secure from any water spillage. 






The next problem, bringing in the huge ferns, was solved by a strong back and wheelbarrow power. Eight mother-in-law tongues took up more of the front room while our bathroom added some hanging baskets and a shelf of Jade. It didn’t take me too long to bring in various pots into the living room. 




The greenhouse received spider plants and purple hearts, both hardy enough to handle more than a single day of freezing temperatures. I threw in the cushions from our lounge chairs and some outdoor pillows to help retain some warmth in the small structure. 

We will leave the frost cloths off of everything until this evening. At the moment, light rain saturates everything. I’m taking advantage of it, and the current temperature of 67° to let everything  soak and breathe before the freeze hits. 












Copyright 2026 Elizabeth Abrams Chapman





Thursday, January 22, 2026

“Cold Front— 2026”


Our first major cold front looms in the immediate future. Although we’ve had a few nights with temperatures ducking down into the 30s, they’ve been followed immediately by warm enough nights and days for me to leave our outside plants alone. Some days I’ve pulled back the frost covers to water or allow rain to nourish my large collection of Aloe Veras and newly planted gardens in both yards. Our little greenhouse tucked in the back holds more sensitive plants that can survive a dip now and then, but the little structure can’t handle the stack of cold weather days forecasted for the rest of this week. 

The last few winters, we’ve experienced back-to-back freezing rain, ice, or even snow. I’ve run the scenario through my head on what comes in and where it goes. Yesterday, I shifted furniture around to accommodate our large ferns first. We will pack other plants around them in the front room next to the best source of natural light in that room. The family room, already adorned with inside greenery will crowd in about four or five more plants. I emptied our bathroom, too, to prepare for the smaller pots. 

As we’ll have warmer temperatures with rain for the next two days, I’ll leave the gardens uncovered to take advantage of tomorrow’s promised rain before securing their protective cloths over them before the first cold front of 2026 whips into Texas. 






























Copyright 2026 Elizabeth Abrams Chapman


Music to listen to as you read today!




Wednesday, January 21, 2026

“Lies of Omission"



Hour after hour, I pour though old letters, emails and texts searching for clues of your true essence. You shared triumphs and tribulations through a narrow lens, allowing me to see only part of who you are and what you believe. Snippets of your life, like photographs, revealed only what you thought would match my own life. In hindsight, I realize how much of yourself you kept cloaked under sharing only specific parts of your life with me. The paths of your youth diverged slowly. Our commonalities of being young wives with young children diverged many years ago. You simply didn’t let me know. 

My career in education spanned thirty years. I shared with you all of the hardships and rewards with detailed descriptions. Your lifeline of sanity, warmth and kindness tethered me to hope even as Mom slowly died from Huntington’s disease. You never missed a holiday or birthday. That generosity made me feel special. Sometimes I carried guilt because I couldn’t reciprocate with anything more than words. Long letters and emails that pulled you into every aspect of my world. All I had to give was myself.

Imagine my pain and loss to learn that you let me into only the parts of your life that you thought matched who and what I am. Not who and what you truly are. Did I fail as a friend? Did you believe I would turn my back on the person you’d grown into? 

Had you shared with me more of your true self, I wouldn’t grieve as I do right now.



Copyright 2026 Elizabeth Abrams Chapman



Feeling "Isolated" as I deal with lost relationships. Thought I'd listen to this song today--




Tuesday, January 20, 2026

"First Communion"

Paula First Communion

            Religious rites and rituals take on different meanings for non-believers raised within a faith. When my mother, a Protestant, married my father, a Catholic, she signed papers that all of their children would be raised within the Catholic faith. As she knew very little about Catholicism, she signed the forms required without reservations.
          My parents lived at McGuire AFB when my sister took her first Communion. Her attire, almost nun-like with a long, simple dress and veil represented simplicity and purity. By the time of my first Communion, my parents had moved to Dover AFB in Delaware. I don’t know if different priests or churches have different policies, but my dress of frivolous frills with a stiff crinoline slip, white patent leather shoes, and short veil made with a headband of flowers didn’t look plain or pure. I can remember my mother worrying about the cost of an outfit that would only be worn once. I still see my sister’s deep brown eyes rimming when she saw the fancy dress and hear her murmured comment about how modest her dress had been just a few years before.
          Many years have passed since that religious passage. As an adult, I’ve moved to atheism. Although family members know my husband, son and I have stepped away from all religious beliefs, they sometimes forget exactly what that means. One sister-in-law took my son to mass with her kids after a Saturday night sleepover. He was probably about seven or eight, the age at which he should have already had his first Communion.
         My son came home from his first experience with mass all excited, chattering, “Mom, we got in a long line. Everyone did this with their hands.” He folded his hands as though in prayer. “Then this man up front, the one who did all of the talking before? He gave me this cracker! It tasted really good because we hadn’t eaten breakfast yet. I wanted another one, but he only gave people one. If I get to go to church again with my cousins, will I get more crackers?”
            When I called my sister-in-law to remind her that my son hadn’t been baptized nor had a first Communion, she belly laughed and exclaimed, “Well, he just skipped a step or two! I don’t think I’ll get into trouble, but I definitely won’t tell my priest!”
 


Liz First Communion 1963

          
Copyright 2020 Elizabeth Abrams Chapman

Love having music in the background when I write!