“Missed Opportunities”

you judged me

never listened to my words

never learned of my dreams

never accepted my strength

you excluded me

never extended an invitation

never initiated friendship

never offered belonging

you hurt me

never helped without games

never explained all the rules

never proposed compromise

you hardened me

never allowed for differences

never acknowledged my wounds

never tolerated my spirit

you lost me

never experienced my humor

never encouraged my independence

never received my respect

Copyright 2011 Elizabeth Abrams Chapman

One trick about relationships is keeping them going long enough to foster mutual respect and liking. I often wonder about the "friendhsip that could have been."

“Golden Son”

Told from the moment of your birth, you’re the Golden Son

Praised for petty acts and deeds, you’re mother’s Special One

Worshipped within your family, you learn bold conceit

Playing games you can’t win, you begin to cheat

Your skill in charming others often leads to sly lies

Forcing others to view you through your mama’s eyes

Cocky and self-centered, you use people in your life

Manipulating others helps you avoid strife

Adultery entices you, it’s part of your game

Interchangeable parts—all women are the same

Unhappiness follows your steps, even when you run

You can’t help the hearts you break, you’re the Golden Son

Copyright 2011 Elizabeth Abrams Chapman

All of us know a "Golden Son" either through personal or professional relationships.

“Will He Love You When”

Will he love you when your youthful days flow into twilight years?

Will he love you when your sense of humor sharpens into jeers?

Will he love you when your butt’s too big for your favorite chair?

Will he love you when your vision’s gone and you don’t see him there?

Will he love you when your hair turns white and wrinkles line your face?

Will he love you when your waist grows thick and your teeth fall out of place?

Will he love you when your perky breasts droop down below your knees?

Will he love you when your sexy voice becomes a husky wheeze?

Will he love you when you clasp his hand and give him your whole heart?

And will you love him when he ages into a bald ol’ fart?

Copyright 2011 Elizabeth Abrams Chapman

“Hair. Hair? Hair!”

            Over the years, my hair and I have engaged in a love/hate relationship. As a child, I wore my hair in a short bang and bob. Not blessed with naturally curly hair like my sister, Mom would torture me with a head full of pin curls at night so my crown of curls would fluff around my face each morning. By the time I’d walk to school, my tendrils would loosen to soft corkscrews. By the end of the day, I’d have a wave. Eventually, the bang and bob gave way to a short, layered “pixie” cut. Barely longer than a boy’s style, this hair style suited my tomboy years perfectly as it required nothing but wash and wear. Sometimes, Mom would take my “sideburns” and tape them over night into a curl. Since no one ever mistook me for a boy, this little whorl became Mom’s attempt to keep me feminine as I wickedly raced through the neighborhood.

            During middle school, I decided to conform with the style of the day—long and straight. Only I had long and wavy. I’d sleep at night with my hair wrapped around juice cans, and on more than one occasion I ironed my tresses. By the end of the day, Texas humidity ruffled its fingers through my locks, and my messy wave returned. By the time I hit my senior year, I embraced my mop and let it grow. If I needed to dress up for a special occasion, I’d pull out the hot rollers and the hairspray; otherwise, I became one with my hair and its unruly nature.

            College found me grabbing the scissors one day in frustration and hacking off all but a few inches of hair.  Immediately, I began growing my hair out again. That became my cycle for my entire adult life. Very short cut, various cuts to disguise that I was growing it out of layers, then finally long hair again. Of course, in the 80s there’s the “big hair” phenomenon of perms and teasing, yet I still stayed focus on my objective.  Whenever the urge did hit me to chop everything off before I’d reached my long hair goal, I’d grab the L’Oreal and thwart my compulsion by changing my hair color.

            Presently, I have cycled back to very long hair. I tell myself that it’s convenient because I can ponytail it or French braid it. I can do the “Mary Ellen Walton” trick of twisting it, tying it in a knot and clipping it. I can even achieve my long ago dream of “long and straight,” if I plug in the Chi. Some days, though, I’ll see a friend with a new stylish cut, and my fingers itch to grab the scissors!

2023

So . . . I grabbed the scissors March 2023!

Copyright 2011 Elizabeth Abrams Chapman

“first draft”

words

scratched out

circled

jotted to the side

in the margins

illusive thoughts

vanishing

into mists

never taking form

mistakes

creating

transforming

white noise

into harmony

Copyright 2011 Elizabeth Abrams Chapman